What is Self-Care, and Why Do I Need It?
“Self-Care is how you take your power back.” -Lalah Delia
Self-care is widely misconstrued as being tied to indulgence and luxury; commonly thought of as something that most people are unable to afford, or simply unnecessary to daily life.
Another misconception of self-care is that it is a selfish act. Focusing on our own well-being is seen by some as a moral failure, or as a waste of time.
Here, I am offering you a different perspective in response to a common question of, “What is self-care?”
Self-care is about your relationship with yourself- not just externally, but also internally.
A take on self-care that I love is referring to it as an act of self-preservation.
To preserve is to maintain something in its original or existing state.
A self-care practice includes the basics, such as daily grooming and getting proper nutrition.
It is also the act of paying attention to your needs, setting boundaries with others, and engaging in activities that elicit peace and joy.
So no, self-care is not selfish; it is not an indulgence, or something that we opt in or out of - it’s a necessity!
Why Do I Need Self-Care?
You won’t be able to get very far at work, at school, or in your life if you’re unmotivated, unwell, and exhausted all the time!
Focusing on Self-care is how we ensure that we are feeling our best and therefore able to put our best into the things we care most about, such as relationships, careers, and goals.
Proper self-care on a consistent basis gives us the energy we need daily.
Intentional self-care is how we begin to practice good stress management skills.
When we are able to manage our stress and minimize the negative effects it can have on our health and lives, we are more likely to achieve our goals, realize our visions of success, and enjoy the lives we have worked so hard for.
Are you interested in improving your relationship with yourself, and creating a self-care practice of your own?
Below are some questions to help you explore self-care in your own life:
Self-Care Reflection Questions
Questions to spark curiosity about self-care in your life.
When do I feel most like myself?
How often do I feel rested when I wake up?
Do I feel focused on and interested in my work?
How much time do I spend with people I love?
What are the activities I engage in to relax? To be intellectually stimulated? To experience something new?
Who do I talk to when I want to have fun and be myself?
What are my go-tos for taking care of my physical health? My mental health?
I hope that this has been helpful. I’d love to know your thoughts. Please share in the comments below!
As Always, Be Well!
~Jessica
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National Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Dial “988”
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